Comments on: Top 5 Best and Worst First Date Spots http://www.loveafter.com/2009/06/01/top-5-best-and-worst-first-date-spots/ Your Guide to Getting Back in the Game and Finding a Soul Mate Mon, 02 Jan 2012 00:09:53 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: admin http://www.loveafter.com/2009/06/01/top-5-best-and-worst-first-date-spots/comment-page-1/#comment-10 admin Tue, 29 Sep 2009 20:29:01 +0000 http://www.loveafter.com/?p=25#comment-10 Great insights! Thanks for the comment! Great insights! Thanks for the comment!

]]> By: Duncan http://www.loveafter.com/2009/06/01/top-5-best-and-worst-first-date-spots/comment-page-1/#comment-9 Duncan Thu, 30 Jul 2009 18:19:03 +0000 http://www.loveafter.com/?p=25#comment-9 Getting back into the dating scene, I agree and disagree with some of your choices. It really depends on how much communication the two have had prior to the first date that can set the tone of the meeting place. I never make a first date at anything that requires you to stay long term - dinner, mini golf, etc. Sure, one can leave early, but if you try not to be rude and stay, 2-3 hours can be a very long time. I prefer to have a short 15-30 minute meet at a coffee shop during the day for those 'we will see' dates. For ladies that I have emailed/chatted with in more detail, that also like a glass of wine or a beer, I suggest a casual but popular bar/grill, and to meet in the lounge first. If all is ok after a sip of wine, we can continue with dinner, if not, we say thanks and move on. Fortunately there is popular park available in my town, that has espresso and food carts all around. I usually pick a meeting place at the edge of the park, so again, if nothing clicks in 15-30 minutes, so be it. If it does, then the park is right there for a stroll. One thing you didn't mention is who pays. Almost all of the locations you mentioned require money, and not everyone wants to spend money on dates that may not turn out. As for me, it doesn't bother me one bit to buy 2 espressos or glasses of wine. If I ask her out I always say in conversation prior to the date "will you let me buy the first round, or do you prefer to go dutch". If she asks me out, I jokingly reply "I always like it when a lady wants to spend her money on me" - she will then establish if she is buying, wants to go dutch, or wants to be treated. In either case, expectations have been set early on. And one last point...if the compatibility isn't there, so what. Make the best of it- talk about other bad dates (well, maybe not), but have a laugh, shake hands as friends and move on. You never know - your date may in some mysterious way know someone you should meet, or may be friends with the next person on your list. Getting back into the dating scene, I agree and disagree with some of your choices. It really depends on how much communication the two have had prior to the first date that can set the tone of the meeting place.

I never make a first date at anything that requires you to stay long term – dinner, mini golf, etc. Sure, one can leave early, but if you try not to be rude and stay, 2-3 hours can be a very long time. I prefer to have a short 15-30 minute meet at a coffee shop during the day for those ‘we will see’ dates.

For ladies that I have emailed/chatted with in more detail, that also like a glass of wine or a beer, I suggest a casual but popular bar/grill, and to meet in the lounge first. If all is ok after a sip of wine, we can continue with dinner, if not, we say thanks and move on.

Fortunately there is popular park available in my town, that has espresso and food carts all around. I usually pick a meeting place at the edge of the park, so again, if nothing clicks in 15-30 minutes, so be it. If it does, then the park is right there for a stroll.

One thing you didn’t mention is who pays. Almost all of the locations you mentioned require money, and not everyone wants to spend money on dates that may not turn out. As for me, it doesn’t bother me one bit to buy 2 espressos or glasses of wine.

If I ask her out I always say in conversation prior to the date “will you let me buy the first round, or do you prefer to go dutch”. If she asks me out, I jokingly reply “I always like it when a lady wants to spend her money on me” – she will then establish if she is buying, wants to go dutch, or wants to be treated. In either case, expectations have been set early on.

And one last point…if the compatibility isn’t there, so what. Make the best of it- talk about other bad dates (well, maybe not), but have a laugh, shake hands as friends and move on. You never know – your date may in some mysterious way know someone you should meet, or may be friends with the next person on your list.

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