This is a guest post by Faylee James. This article originally appeared at resingles.blogspot.com.

Has anyone told you, you were to old for love or wanting someone in your life? I have and it came from someone I loved very much. Did I listen to them? Sad to say, yes, I did. I was already “middle aged” when I got the courage to end my marriage. One of the main reasons I wanted to end the marriage was my loneliness. I knew I deserved better and I wanted to feel alive again. BUT, even with that I was open to letting someone else tell me I had waited to long. Life had passed me by.

It took another two years and a new friend to let me know it was okay, in fact, right in every way, to want the love I was craving. My age wasn’t the problem, my letting someone else decide what was right for me was.

I started my search by learning about myself and what or whom I wanted in my life. I found out the loneliness I was feeling wasn’t so much for another person as it was for finding the person I wanted to be.

Once I became the best me, the rest would come too. I went back to school, taking classes on becoming a Life Coach.  I ended my old career in public relations, something I hadn’t liked for years but was still doing out of habit. I begin to write, not just for me but for you.  I begin to speak to other late bloomers, encouraging them to try new things and reach for their desires. I began coaching, what I call reSingles—people who, like me, became single later in life and had forgotten how to date or have relationships with the opposite sex.

A new life for me began after 50. Not that I would change having my beautiful children because they are my light. The light that keeps me going to be the best me I can be. My regret is not being this person when I had more influence in their lives.

Never, never, never let someone tell you, you are too old to start something new in your life. Whether it be finding love, writing a book or roller skating across America. Okay, maybe the roller skating might be taking it a bit far. But decisions for your life should come from you. After all, you are the one that has the right answers to all your questions, just reach up and grab them. Then enjoy and make it happen.