A lot goes on behind the scenes in the minds of men and women during a first date or first encounter. Both are rating the other while simultaneously hoping the other is rating them high. But are men and women evaluating the other on similar grounds? For the most part, the answer is no. Check out this video as one example of how men and women view first dates differently.

While this video is comical and depicts some stereotypes of how men and women think, it does bring to light an important point. Men and women are not looking for the same thing when they first meet a potential date. Most women look at a man’s long term potential. While not all women will think, is this a guy I would marry, they might be thinking, is this a guy I could have a long meaningful relationship with (or in this situation, can I stand this man for more than 15 minutes).

Men, on the other hand, don’t often think in such long terms on a first date or first meeting. (I know, I’m making generalizations here. Not all men or women think alike.) Many men look at a first date and evaluate their level of attraction for their date while trying to judge their date’s level of attraction for them. This doesn’t mean that men are only interested in sex or in a physical relationship. It simply means that men and women judge each other differently on a FIRST meeting or first date. Many men have said they would not pursue a long term relationship with a women that slept with him on a first date. So, though he may THINK about sex right away and even WANT it, he is looking for a deeper connection and will respect a women who waits more than one who jumps into bed with him right away.

On your next date, keep in mind that you and your date might not be evaluating the situation on the same lines. And take a lesson from this video by not jumping to a judgement too quickly. Be open minded to your date … and for more than 5 to 15 minutes!

So, what are you thinking on a first date? Leave a comment about what you are thinking about on a first date. Do you agree with the video?