This is a guest post by Star.

I love the quote by the French Author Jules Renard, “Laziness is nothing more than the habit of resting before you get tired.”

When you are in a relationship, it can feel like being on a roller coaster. Sometimes the relationship is up and sometimes down.  This is not a bad thing, as I see it.  Having ups and downs means your relationship is dynamic and not stagnated.

However, many people are just too lazy to work at the relationship and therefore remain in the down position. Yes, it’s true. Laziness is a major factor in bad relationships. Oh, it’s so tiring to work so hard when you think to yourself,  “I am already in this relationship so why do I need to continue working so hard at it?”

Many people tend to take things for granted, especially relationships.  And most of us have some degree of laziness, so it is common and natural to fall back on that and use it as an excuse.

My best advice to you is to find your motivation. For example, if you feel that your relationship is comfortable and going smoothly but you do not have the butterflies in your stomach you used to have and you miss the feeling, your motivation should be to get that excitement back.

So pick yourself up, take a blank page and write down some steps that can help you start. Use the following guidelines to help you overcome your laziness and get your relationship back on track.

• Create a sense of urgency which will push you to act
• Think about what will happen if you don’t do anything
• Look at the benefits if you do
• Decide what the next action is and set a time frame for that action
• Do one thing at a time
• Challenge yourself
• Overcome the laziness