After going through a divorce, Annie Earley found herself single again at 51. In her book, What Was I Thinking?! How Not to Date, Earley recalls her experience of being thrust back into the dating scene.  Her comical, and sometimes painful, descriptions of men she met (mostly through online dating sites) leave the reader questioning: What WAS she thinking? But anyone who has dated, online or otherwise, should be able to relate. We’ve all been there. Putting up with inappropriate behavior from someone we’re dating or finding excuses for why we should give our relationship another chance instead of heeding the red flags and getting out sooner. From men wearing leg warmers to ones who tell corny jokes all night, Earley met all types, and she openly shares her experiences with readers.

Earley’s book provides great insight to women considering online dating, new to the online dating scene, or getting frustrated with their lack of success with dating. Readers will not only be entertained by Earley but learn some valuable safety tips and warning signs. Earley’s style of being up front with the men she dates online is a great example of how women should clearly communicate their feelings to the men they are dating. When Earley realizes she doesn’t intend to date a man longer, she calls him and tells him, instead of ignoring his phone calls or trying to send an email explaining the situation. This upfront style should be an example to all daters!

An easy read from start to finish, this book will entertain and teach. Learn from Earley’s mishaps and laugh at her misfortunes.  This book is a great reminder that dating is an adventure—sometimes wonderful, sometimes laughable, and sometimes downright painful. Be sure to read through to the end, including the author bio section to find out how Earley’s dating experience ends.

Purchase this book.

After going through a difficult breakup most people would be willing to try just about anything to stop the pain and get their love back.  If you have done everything you can think of to do and are now wondering, ‘how to get back with ex husband?”, then this article is for you.

There has been a lot of talk recently about the effects of positive thinking and how it can impact your daily life.  Using this process to get back with your boyfriend seems like a logical next step.  But it isn’t the do all, end all you may have heard.  There is more to it than just the thinking part.

To successfully use positive thinking to make the desired changes in your life you have to remember that it takes two steps: picture what you want, and take specific action to make that want a reality.

Just sitting around day dreaming about getting your boyfriend back won’t do it.  But thinking about getting your boyfriend back while you take positive steps to make it happen will be more likely to work.

So what positive steps should you be taking?  Usually this is where most people mess up, they take a lot of action but it’s all the wrong kinds of action.

You don’t want to constantly text, email and call your ex.  That won’t accomplish a thing except perhaps a restraining order.  What you want to do is leave it alone.

I know this sounds wrong, but it’s not.  No one is attracted to a clingy, weepy, desperate person and your ex won’t be either.  You need to take a step back and spend some time working on  you.  Don’t change who you are to get your boyfriend back, but honestly analyze any areas in your life that could use  a little change of attitude.  This is for you not for him.

The beauty of this is that you make yourself into a better person all the while giving him time to miss you and remember why he fell in love with you in the first place.

That way no matter what happens, whether you get back together or not, you will have grown as a person and will have more to offer whomever you find yourself in a relationship with.

Can positive thinking get my boyfriend back?  Yes…sort of.  Just remember that positive thinking is only step 1 in a 2 step method.  Use both steps to have the absolute best chance of accomplishing your goals.

This is a guest post by Beau Riche,  a relationship expert that has secretly helped 6,100 people in 67 countries.  Just break up?  Want to save your relationship?  Get instant relief from break up pain and a proven plan to win back your ex… even if your situation seems impossible! Check out more about the Magic of Making Up.

Divorce.  Yuck! Now that you’ve gone through that hell on earth you may be starting to think that the whole thing was a huge mistake.  If you want to know how to get back with ex-husband this article can help.

If you went to a therapist after your divorce and asked how to get back with your ex one of the first things they would probably do is ask you why you wanted to take him back.

That’s a good question.  If you’ve had time to honestly evaluate your marriage and have come to the conclusion that you ended it too soon without trying hard enough to save it then that’s one thing.

But if you, like so many others, are just now facing the fear and uncertainty of being newly single and are starting to think being in a bad marriage is better than being alone, you really need to find some help to get over the feelings of loneliness and depression before you do something you’ll regret.

If you’re positive that getting back with your ex is the best thing for both of you, here are a few simple steps you can follow:

1) Try to talk to him.  Not yell or nag, but talk.  And listen.  Try to honestly and maturely discuss why the relationship ended.  Examine what misunderstandings took you two so far away from one another.

If the two of you can honestly discuss how you’re feeling, without recriminations, then you might actually see that you’re not that far apart after all.  You have just been coming at it from opposite directions.

2) Take some time to honestly evaluate what part you played in the deterioration of your marriage.  No one is ever completely blameless.  What was your part and are you willing to change whatever behavior it was that contributed to the breakup?

3) Try to find resources that will help the two of you communicate.  So many couples just have a hard time expressing themselves and listening to their partners.  If you can find a way to work around this, you might have a shot at not only getting back with your ex but also of making your marriage what you’d truly like it to be.

Divorce is one of the ugliest and most difficult things we can go through.  If you’ve come to the conclusion that yours was a mistake and you want to know how to get back with your ex husband then following these tips will be a good first step in the right direction.

This is a guest post by Beau Riche,  a relationship expert that has secretly helped 6,100 people in 67 countries.  Just break up?  Want to save your relationship?  Get instant relief from break up pain and a proven plan to win back your ex… even if your situation seems impossible! Check out more about the Magic of Making Up.

As women, and well, humans really, we love to be complimented. If we just got a new haircut, bought a new outfit, or dropped a few pounds, there is nothing better than someone else noticing and complimenting us. So, why is it that we can be so bad at accepting compliments? And why are women much worse at this skill than men? While I’m not sure of the root cause of the issue, I am sure that it begins at an early age. This video shot by teenagers may be goofy but their point rings true.

Even teenage boys are annoyed by girls not being able to accept a compliment well. Just think of how bothered adult men are that women STILL have not learned this art. In fact, women even have a hard time accepting a compliment from other women.  The woman in this video even admits that though she knows the best way to accept a compliment, she finds it hard to do.

So, what do you say when someone compliments you? Let’s look at the different responses from this video.

The first response is full of conceit and puffery. If you respond to a compliment with, “oh I know! I DO look fabulous tonight, don’t I?” Well, obviously, you’ll come off as full of yourself. And while having confidence is a great attribute, and especially good to exude on a date, being self-absorbed is not.

In the second response, the complimentee feels compelled to return a compliment right away. Oftentimes, this leaves you, as with the woman in the video, frantically searching for something nice to say back. This method not only looks fake but can find you saying some very awkward, if not offensive response. So, just don’t do it! Your complimenter did not say something nice to you simply to get a nice response back (or at least we really hope not). So, don’t contrive some lame compliment back just to return the favor. If you truly want to compliment your date, do so later in the night. Make sure your date knows your compliment is genuine and not made out of obligation to pay a compliment back.

If a date tells you how great you look, do you go into a diatribe about how you weren’t sure the dress was flattering (”Really? Doesn’t it make my butt look big?”) and your hair didn’t do what you wanted it to (”My hair is so flat today though.”). As the third response in the video depicts, no one wants to hear all the reasons why they are wrong to have liked such and such. Men especially, aren’t looking for a list of excuses for why complimenting you wasn’t a good thing. They have put themselves out there by offering a compliment. Don’t contradict them. Tell them how much you appreciate their kind gesture. Save the diatribe on why your date is crazy for complimenting your dress or hair or whatever for when you recount your date to friends.  Such responses do not make you look modest or humble. They do make you seem insecure and lacking confidence. You want to be comfortable with yourself and allow your date to see that you are.

Hopefully, or at least from now on, you’ll graciously say, “thank you so much” and nothing more. Just remember that a compliment needs only one response: Thank you.